Preventing
Premature Ejaculation: Steps and Partner Roles
One goal that many men strive to achieve
when having sex is preventing premature
ejaculation, but unfortunately, having premature ejaculation is very common
among both old and young people. The causes are varied between people; from
stress to depression, from diabetes to heart condition. This condition is
unwanted because it can lower a man’s confidence and decrease the satisfaction
of sex for the couple. No wonder preventing premature ejaculation becomes
number one question in conversations about sex.
Since premature ejaculation can be
caused by several factors from physical to psychological, the treatments for
premature ejaculation are varied and probably not same for everybody. The most
severe cases may need some medical help, but if you can prevent it with some
simple methods, why not trying it? Preventing premature ejaculation can
be done in natural ways, unless the problems genuinely need some medication.
Preventing Premature Ejaculation, Things
to Understand
Before taking efforts of preventing
premature ejaculation, you need to know the main cause of premature
ejaculation. There are two types of premature ejaculation and each has its own
causes and each requires different prevention methods.
·
Primary Premature Ejaculation
This is usually caused by
psychological causes, in which a person has this condition since the beginning
of their active sexual period. Common causes are habit (like when a teenager
masturbates often and always finds quick release), trauma (like after
experiencing sexual molestation), strict sexual education in upbringing (like
when sex is viewed as bad) and such. Parents actually have important role in preventing premature ejaculation during
adult phase.
·
Secondary Premature Ejaculation
This is premature ejaculation
condition, which happens when someone suddenly experiences it after normal
ejaculation history. Common causes are diseases (like heart attack, diabetes
and hypertension), alcohol and drug addiction, age, stress, depression and tiredness.
Steps of preventing premature ejaculation may be aimed to causes that are not
age.
By understanding common causes of
premature ejaculation, you can employ various ways in curing or even preventing
this condition, even before it comes in the first place.
Steps in Preventing Premature
Ejaculation
Let us focus first on secondary
premature ejaculation, because most people usually already enter active
sexual
phase when experiencing this. Since secondary premature ejaculation is usually attributable
to both physical and psychological causes, you must understand the cause first
before preventing premature ejaculation.
Once you find out that you cannot last longer than your usual performance,
especially if this happens repeatedly, you must note when this happens and what
particular condition or activities you do that may cause it.
If you think you have certain disease,
or experience symptoms of severe disease such as diabetes, heart condition and
hypertension, do not hesitate to bring up your premature ejaculation problem
next time you visit a doctor. This is because preventing premature ejaculation can only be done when your disease
is taken care of. You can also talk to your doctor about your medicine; several
types of medicine such as painkillers, antidepressant, antipsychotics and
muscle relaxants may cause premature ejaculation. Reducing your alcohol intake
can also be a good way in reducing premature ejaculation. Try to consume only about
one or two small glasses of wine, one or two cans of beer or maximum 25 ml of
spirit one day.
If your premature ejaculation is caused
by psychological factors such as stress, depression or anxiety, the problems
are much deeper and probably much more difficult to solve. However, many
psychological problems depend on self-control, so you can actively seek for
help in solving these problems and preventing premature ejaculation. For
example, when you realize that your premature ejaculation comes after a hard
week at work, or ugly arguments with your mate, or problems within family, try
seeing a psychologist or therapist and tell about your problems, including your
premature ejaculation, to get the right treatment.
Partner’s Roles in Preventing Premature
Ejaculation
Many males are embarrassed when having
to go through talks about premature ejaculation with their partners. However,
it turns out that sexual partner’s roles in preventing
premature ejaculation are very important. Whatever the cause of premature
ejaculation a man has, his sexual partner must be a good talking partner to
help him go through this condition. The couple can talk honestly about this
condition; instead of feeling embarrassed, the man can get support while
looking for solution, and he can regain his confidence by finding other ways to
pleasure his mate. In preventing
premature ejaculation, it is also good if a man is open about any sexual
trauma or deep fear that he experiences, which prevent him from holding his
release. This way, he will not feel depressed or frustrated and has someone to
talk to.